Rooted Together: Resources
It was an honor to have you and your daughter(s) at the workshop. See the resources and tips below to continue fostering connection with your tween or teen, now and into the future.
How to emotionally support your tween/teen
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When your tween/teen comes to you for help, it’s important to understand how they want to be supported. Here are a few questions to guide the conversation and give them what they need in the moment:
How can I best support you right now?
Would you like me to just listen?
Do you want me to offer suggestions?
Would you like me to take action?
These questions empower your tween/teen to express their needs and help you respond in a way that makes them feel truly heard and supported.
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Tweens/Teens can have intense feelings they may not yet know how to handle. Let them know it's okay to feel this way and offer them a safe space to express those emotions.
You might say:
"I know you feel big emotions right now, and it's okay to feel them. Please take the time and space you need to feel all those feelings. I'll be here if and when you're ready to talk."By encouraging your tween/teen to take the space they need to process their emotions, you're teaching them an important skill—how to protect their emotional well-being. Girls are often taught to suppress their emotions for the sake of others, but this empowers them to honor their feelings and take care of themselves fully.
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Receiving feedback can be tough, whether it’s coming from your tween/teen or you. Sometimes, it feels like they’re pushing back against everything you suggest, and other times, it’s us as caregivers who struggle to hear their feedback. Here are a few ways to approach these moments:
Remind them (and yourself): "We’re on the same team. I share feedback because I believe in you and know what you’re capable of, not to criticize you."
Ask: "Is there a different way you’d like me to share my thoughts?"
Offer: "What can I do differently so you feel like we’re working through this together?"
By framing feedback as support, you foster a sense of collaboration and mutual respect, which strengthens your connection.
Let’s talk about puberty.
The sooner we discuss puberty, the more prepared our tweens will be when it inevitably happens. This book, Puberty Is Gross but Also Really Awesome, has been a wonderful resource for me and my tween. It serves as an honest, relatable, and empowering survival guide for parents and tweens. It covers everything from body hair to gender identity, in a fun and digestible way. I invite you to explore the book for yourselves.
Listen up.
Enjoy this empowering playlist from the Rooted Together workshop. Listen with your tween/teen or listen alone (preferably, in the car with the windows down 😊).
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